Hear Annalise Kordell & Other Experts at the 2019 Kidskintha Parenting Consciousness Conference

Save the Date: February 15 - 18, 2019

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Register now and get 48-hours of FREE access to over 28 interviews with experts from the fields of neurology, psychology, mental health coaching, teaching, and educational entrepreneurship (including the Center for Connection’s very own Clinical Director, Annalise Kordell).

Watch this Trailer to Learn More

Click the button above to register now for FREE. You will receive an email at the start of the conference, and will have 48 hours to watch the various keynote addresses. Topic focuses include:

1. Practicing child-centered, connection-based parenting

2. Beating Parenting Overwhelm

3. Raising children with self-awareness

4. Making sense of their rapidly changing bodies and minds

5. Raising Future-Ready kids

6. Raising strong and resilient children

7. Setting children up for academic success. 


Hear Dan Siegel, Olivia Martinez-Hauge, & Other Experts at this Year's Bright & Quirky Conference!

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Are you raising a bright and quirky child? Looking for answers in helping your child thrive, even with focus, learning, social, emotional or behavioral challenges?  Wanting to find a community of experts and parents who ‘get’ a twice exceptional child who is both bright and struggling?

Join Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Debbie Steinberg Kuntz for The FREE Bright & Quirky Child Online Summit starting January 28, 2019. The 30 speakers include Dr. Ross Greene, Dr. Temple Grandin, Dr. Dan Siegel, Dr. Ned Hallowell, Dr. Laura Kastner, Michelle Garcia Winner, Dr. Barry Prizant, Dr. Denise Pope, Dr. Dan Peters, and Dr. Laura Markham.

This online summit includes over 19 hours of free expertise from experts working with bright kids with focus, learning, social, emotional, and behavioral challenges. The Bright & Quirky Child Online Summit runs for 7 days, beginning January 28th. Content will be FREE to the public each day for 24 hours. There will be approximately 4-5 talks per day. A membership to the Bright & Quirky IdeaLab is available for purchase for those who would like to watch the series at their own pace, do Q&A with the experts, and get parent support. Amazing lineup of speakers!

Here’s an Overview of Each Day:

  • Day 1 - Jan. 28: Understand your bright & quirky child

  • Day 2 - Jan. 29: Manage emotional intensity, meltdowns & behavior

  • Day 3 - Jan. 30: Navigate school and learning challenges

  • Day 4 - Jan. 31: Manage social challenges and build community

  • Day 5 - Feb. 1: Increase focus, motivation and executive function

  • Day 6 - Feb. 2: Calm stress, anxiety and perfectionism

  • Day 7 - Feb. 3: Parent complex bright & quirky kids — interviews from Dan Siegel and our own Olivia Martinez-Hauge will air on this day!


Click to register:https://brightandquirky.com/summitreg/

The Impact of Traumatic Separation on a Child’s Developing Brain:

A Brief Discussion Given Current Events

Written by:  Joy Malik-Hasbrook, PsyD PSY22923 Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Many years of research have shown us how important the caregiver/attachment relationship is on a child’s development and resulting adult functioning.   “Development may be conceptualized as the transformation of external into internal regulation” (Shore, 2001, p. 205). Thus, the child internalizes the external experience of the parental relationship to develop many areas including regulating mechanisms of internal feelings and states, inner calming, managing fear and stress, connection with others, and perception of the world.

A child’s brain is continually developing based on her external environment.  Subsequently, research has shown that the brain can be significantly impacted when the child endures a traumatic experience.  Trauma can be defined by an experience where the individual is so frightened and/or helpless that it overwhelms the capacity to cope.  When a child experiences a loss of the caregiver relationship, this can be especially traumatic because children are dependent on their caregivers for survival and safety.  The child will likely be in a constant state of helplessness and vigilance, which is overwhelming for the brain and body. 

Research shows trauma impacts the child’s developing brain in many ways.  The brain adapts to this constant fear and focuses more on survival.  Subsequently, the brain overly develops the systems that anticipate and respond to a threat, instead of other expected areas of maturation.  The limbic system (amygdala and hippocampus), midbrain, and brainstem, which play key roles in regulating our responses to a potential threat, fear, and states of overwhelm show increased sensitivity.  Additionally, the cortex and frontal lobes have reduced functioning, which are structures connected to problem-solving, planning, and learning. 

When a trauma occurs outside of the home, the child can heal and integrate this difficult experience with the support of her loving and safe parent.  The parent’s protection and processing of the trauma support the integration as the child is able to internalize the healing experience from the parent.  Therefore, when a child experiences a distressing parental loss or separation it is traumatizing in multiple ways.  The current political decision that separated families is extremely dangerous to the families’ ongoing health and development.  It is one of the most dangerous experiences a child can have because not only has she experienced something traumatic, the loss of her parent, but she also do NOT have the safety, love, connection, and regulation of the attachment relationship to heal and integrate the traumatic experience.

It is also important to note the shared experience of overwhelming toxic stress among all of us living in the United States.  Given our interconnectedness as humans, we are all impacted by the helplessness and distress our society is feeling. 

We must also remember that our brains, bodies, and minds have an amazing capacity for healing. Research in neuroscience has taught us about neuroplasticity, that the brain, even in adulthood, can change.  We can provide the mental health support for both the children and their caregivers to heal and integrate this trauma. We can also teach mindfulness and compassion practices, which studies have shown support the healing of the brain and body after experiencing a trauma.

References:

Schore, A. (2001) The Effects of Early Relational Trauma on Right Brain Development, Affect Regulation, and Infant Mental Health.  Infant Mental Health Journal, 22(1–2), 201–269.

van der Kolk, B (2003) The Neurobiology of Childhood Trauma and Abuse. Child and Adolescent Psychiatry Clinics 12, 293-317.

College or Bust? Understanding your college student’s mental health

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After months of preparation and the college essentials are jammed in the back of car, your high school grad is off to their first year of college.  You might be experiencing the swirl of emotions and expectations typical of a parent sending their child off on their first step toward adulthood. But what happens when your student doesn’t make it through their first year or even semester? According to some sources, 35 percent of first year college students will drop out during their first year.  The Bill and Melinda Gates foundation reports that a majority of these students drop out due to the cost of going to school. But what about the mental health of our first-year college students? According to the National Alliance on Mental Health, 50% of college students reported their mental health as below average or poor.

There is no doubt that the transition from high school to college is a difficult one. As therapists we are seeing clients who are struggling to make this transition. We work with others who have returned home experiencing feelings of shame and guilt for not performing to the real or perceived expectations of their family and friends. Students are left asking questions of themselves and working through the feelings on their own. Many times, parents are left with questions about how to help their children who are in uncharted college territory. I have turned to a seasoned colleague who has years of experience working with this exact population. Christine Triano is a licensed clinical social worker and the Director of Mental Health at the Center for Connection in Pasadena. Here is a question and answer session vis-à-vis parents of college-age students.


Christine, how can we know if our student is really struggling with mental health issues or if it’s just laziness or homesickness? 

Homesickness is a normal part of the college experience, and likely a feeling your child has already experienced at summer camp or travel away from family. It’s a hard feeling, but one that is also tolerable and should resolve with time and engagement with others and by participating in enjoyable activities.  

A mental health issue does not simply pass, but rather continues to come up and, untreated, likely worsen. One way to look at any issue is to ask, is this significantly impairing my child’s ability to function? Questions to assess this might include: Are they making it to class? Getting their work done on time? Maintaining a regular schedule? Getting enough sleep? Spending time with peers? How’s their self-care (e.g. hygiene, nutrition, personal chores)? Major challenges in any of these areas may signal that there is a mental health issue at play.

How do I prepare my student for the independence of college life?

There are two fundamental forms of preparedness for leaving home. The first is cultivating the skills necessary for independent living. I can’t tell you how many freshmen I met while working as a college mental health counselor who had never grocery shopped or done a load of laundry. Think about leaving home for the first time to live away from your family in a totally new setting, surrounded by strangers, including one or more you have to share a room with. Then add the academic pressures and logistical demands of mastering a college schedule. It’s a lot. Now, add the fact that you need to put money on your laundry card, make sure you have a bottle of Tide, and separate your whites from your colors. It is a small task that can become that one extra drop that makes a student’s bucket overflow. 

So, how to help your teen be better prepared in this regard? This one is relatively simple, but means starting now (or yesterday!). I strongly believe all kids should have chores. Even a 5-year-old can help set the table, or put their clothes in the hamper. Beginning in high school, I often share with parents that they are not helping their child grow by doing things for them they are capable of doing themselves. My own children, both teens themselves, have heard this time and again. Of course, there are exceptions. When my recent high school graduate was studying for finals, I happily threw in a couple of loads of laundry for him. But, in general, I think it’s great to look at this as adding tools to their self-care toolkit. This includes tasks like: laundry, changing their sheets, cleaning the bathroom, preparing some simple meals, and making a basic grocery store run. For older teens, making their own appointments for haircuts or the doctor is also great practice. If they drive, I would add basic car maintenance too. 

The second form of preparedness is more about emotional readiness. A Harris Poll of college freshmen found that a full 60% stated they wished they had gotten more help with emotional preparation for college, defined as “the ability to take care of oneself, adapt to new environments, control negative emotions or behavior and build positive relationships.”  Studies have shown us that such preparedness is a major factor for students’ success during their first year at college. I would also add that play and balance are major contributing factors for cultivating resilience.

At the Center for Connection, we often talk about the foundation for this kind of resilience in terms of having the ability to self-regulate. Anxiety, depression, panic, stress, isolation, or withdrawal, by contrast, are all forms of being in a state of dysregulation. One way to approach this is by asking yourself if you are scaffolding your child up toward greater resilience. This may mean encouraging them to email a teacher or to set up a meeting at school on their own, allowing them to plan how to spend their time when there are competing social and academic demands, and generally letting them experiment with taking risks (within reason) and possibly failing. In general, if you can standby with support and empathy, rather than intervening or otherwise performing those amazing contortions of body and spirit designed to prevent your child from experiencing disappointment, loss, or discomfort, then you are on the right path.

I know my student has mental health issues, what can I do to ensure he/she is safe and healthy at school?

College campuses are acutely aware that students are experiencing record-levels of mental health challenges, with counseling centers facing increasing, and in some settings, overwhelming demand for services. The fact is, almost one thirdof students meet criteria for an anxiety or depressive illness during their college experience and many do not get or seek the help they need. It’s important not to be afraid to explore what’s really going on. It’s not unusual for a young adult to try and work things out on their own, or to be reluctant to worry parents back home.  If you have concerns or a sense that your child is really struggling, start with some open-ended questions or maybe be sharing a memory of your own college experience when things were hard. Let them know that their well-being is more important than their GPA and that you are there to offer support, without judgment. If you suspect they feel overwhelmed, you may want to gently offer to investigate options on campus, such as “I know the counseling center is available to all students, would it be helpful if I checked into how you go about making an appointment?” Keeping your own fears and concerns in check is important here. Even with college-age students, as parents our emotional state still has a big impact on our kids. We can help by being mindful that our own worries don’t amplify our child’s distress.

My student just told me they want to take a year off, what should I do?

First, breathe. Then, investigate, without leaping to assumptions. If your child is coming to you with such a pronouncement, it very likely was not arrived at lightly or easy to share. Maybe they are just feeling overwhelmed and need to vent. In that case, it may be more a question of exploring what kinds of support they need that they may be lacking. If it’s more serious, the first step should be to assess whether your child is in crisis. If so, it’s always important to seek help immediately. There are lots of reasons students decide to take a break. In many other parts of the world, it’s common for young people to take a gap year before heading off to four-years of college. The reasons for this are many, including gaining life skills, seeing new places, discovering what they’re interested in, volunteering, earning some money, and learning more about themselves. 

I have worked with students who muscled through their first year or two of school, despite the growing burden of untreated, or undertreated, anxiety, depression, trauma or other mental health issues. In my experience of working with such young people, there is also often an element of confusion about their identity rooted in not having a sense of their authentic self. Teens today face enormous pressure, oftentimes internalized, to be “perfect.” I am regularly impressed by the drive I see in high-schoolers, juggling AP classes, sports, extra-curriculars and schedules that make me tired just to hear about. The one thing that can be missed in this drive to get into a good college or university, however, can be time to reflect on their true values, hopes, dreams, and passions. Once away at school, it can make it even harder to form meaningful connections with others when it’s hard to be yourself, or if you’re not even quite sure who that self is. 

All of these factors can lead to that call where the idea of taking a year off is proposed. Getting to the degree is important, but so is arriving at college graduation with the mental and emotional well-being, life skills, and maturity to succeed after college. Would your student benefit from a year to focus on cultivating these qualities? What are the options for your family, and how can you come to an agreement about what the year will look like? I’ve worked with students home for a semester or a year, some of whom have done intensive therapy for most of that time, others who combined treatment with getting a job or taking classes nearby, and yet others who created plans involving travel and volunteerism after a restorative period home. All schools have a procedure for requesting medical leave, which applies to mental as well as physical health. There are some details to work out, but with a simple request and sometimes a letter from a mental health professional, the process can be initiated to give your student the time they need to get well. 


Christine, you gave the readers great words of wisdom, anecdotes, and practical advice we can implement tonight! In some cases, the decision to go to college is expected and the discussion around the kitchen table usually focuses on tuition, deciding on a major, and where to live.  While bedding and books are essential parts of going to college, you can equip your child with a tool belt stocked with resilience, self-care, and self-advocacy tools to ease their transition into Independence University.  Experiment with giving your child space to be responsible for making an appointment, completing a chore, or advocating for themselves, and except some speed bumps along the way; mistakes and failures are moments of learning. By the way, the loads of laundry they bring home on the weekends are their way of saying, “I still need you.” — OMH

Introducing the Play Strong Institute...

The Center is excited to announce that we've expanded. Our new venture, The Play Strong Institute, will be run by Managing Director Georgie Wisen-Vicent and will open its doors September 1, 2018. 

Located at 1021 E. Walnut in Pasadena, California, the Institute is dedicated to providing continuing education and training to a new generation of play therapists, advancing study and research in play therapy and neuroscience, and enriching the lives of children and families through counseling that is highly integrated with the science of interpersonal neurobiology, trauma-informed care, play and the expressive arts. 

A MESSAGE FROM THE PLAY STRONG INSTITUTE

Our mission is to promote best practices in Child-Centered Play Therapy training with a focus on the brain and relationships for graduate students, pre-licensed and licensed professionals in counseling, psychology, social work, family therapy, and integrative mental health. We always incorporate the latest research on the developing mind, brain, and relationships working from a neurobiology framework in play therapy to better understand the needs of children who experience stress, anxiety, and trauma and help develop stronger emotional resilience. 

Because children are better at expressing emotions through their actions, the distinct advantage of play therapy is that children express their ideas and feelings through creativity and hands-on innovation. Research shows that our brains develop and get connected from the bottom up, so we begin with body movement and sensory experiences and allow children to make a natural progression to complex thinking, emotional awareness, and mature communication. In play therapy, children can share their life stories, form new connections and build confidence around previous challenges that have been difficult, uncomfortable, worrisome, confusing, or chaotic. A creatively attuned play therapist responds skillfully and effectively to clarify their needs, help them express their emotions, find new solutions, practice new skills, and rewire healthy brain connections in a way that feels most natural, comfortable, and yes, even fun and enjoyable to children!

Improving quality play therapy education and training for prospective play therapists and building competence in the neurorelational framework that respects the individual differences of children, teens and young adults are of particular importance to us. Our team of therapists, supervisors, and instructors has spent many years studying and practicing evidence-based, research-supported approaches in play therapy guided by the science of interpersonal neurobiology. We are very proud to share our knowledge, experience, and enthusiasm for teaching and working holistically with children and families. Join us in the movement to create stronger, healthier, more resilient kids through play!

Learn more!

Visit the Play Therapy Institute's website to learn more: https://www.thecenterforconnection.org/playstrong/

We have a new home for our interdisciplinary team!

We are very excited to have all of our brilliant CFC clinicians together under one roof! Our new office is located near the 210 freeway, right off the Madre Street exit, and we'll be open on Monday, July 23rd, 2018!

Our new offices will feature plenty of on-site parking, 6,000 square feet of office space, gorgeous mountain views, updated facilities, and more! It's also conveniently located near the Post Office, multiple restaurants, Target, and other shops.

We will close our California location by the end of July, and each team member's move-out date will vary. Our Walnut location will become a hub for play therapy. We will keep you updated as additional details become available! 

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3030 E Colorado Blvd, Pasadena, CA 91107

3030 E Colorado Blvd, Pasadena, CA 91107

CFC Clinician Dr. Chon Featured on MotherSquad.com

Check out this powerful blog from CFC clinician, Dr. Esther Chon, which was featured on Mother Squad.com. Dr. Chon is a mom and a clinical psychologist with a specialty in Infant Mental Health and Maternal Mental Health. 

To quote Mother Squad, "Dr. Chon writes about the experience of having a picture in your head of what your baby will be like versus what the "real" baby is actually like. This process of grieving, accepting, and loving repeats itself throughout motherhood. Dr. Chon draws from her own experiences as a mom." 

We Now Offer the Safe and Sound Protocol

We are proud to announce that we now offer the Safe and Sound Protocol at the Center for Connection for kids who need help with regulating their emotions.

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Based on years of research by Dr. Stephen Porges, the Safe and Sound Protocol is a 5-day therapeutic listening program designed to help increase the social engagement system in children and adults while simultaneously calming the nervous system. We must be regulated and organized in order to understand language and engage socially with one another!

SSP is a great way to help children and adults move through major transitions (such as starting school, starting a new job, going on vacation) and prepare for participation in other therapeutic interventions. Visit the Integrated Listening System (iLs) website for more information.

Dr. Jamie Chaves, OTD, OTR/L, SWC at the Center for Connection, can now administer the SSP, which can only be done by a professional who has participated in the training. Interested participants will commit to five (5) consecutive days of listening to the 60-minute sessions (which can be broken up into two 30-minute sessions with a short break in between, if necessary). The cost of the 5-day intervention is $1,000.

Please contact Dr. Chaves directly for more information or to participate in the program.

Note that this intervention is not meant to replace other forms of therapy--it is designed to be used in an adjunctive manner.

Welcome to Our New Space!

The Center for Connection (CFC) recently added another office, 1021 E Walnut St., Suite 200, Pasadena, 91106, in order to accommodate our ever-growing staff and better serve our clients. With more space, more equipment, and more therapists come more opportunities, more potential for therapeutic progress, and more collaboration.

The educational therapy team now located at the Walnut office includes two part-time Educational Specialists, Tami Millard and Tiffanie Hoang, who are both seasoned educators working toward completion of requirements to become Educational Therapists, and Debra Hori, who is an experienced full-time Educational Therapist for CFC. In addition, Janel Umfress serves as a consultant to CFC for matters relating to educational therapy, school support, and speech/language pathology. We also have two full-time Occupational Therapists at the Walnut office, Dr. Jamie Chaves, and Justin Waring-Crane. Dr. Chaves has her state certification in feeding and swallowing.

At the center of the new space is our full sensory gym, rich in a variety of climbing components, swings, tactile experiences, chalkboard wall, and ample space to move around. Not to mention it is surrounded by windows to give a gorgeous view of the mountains and abundant natural light. Because the sensory gym serves as the central hub, our educational therapists and speech therapists can utilize the space in order to regulate clients before or during their sessions. This puts clients in a better state of mind for learning, allows them to be open to new challenges, and facilitates improved focus—all of which result in more productive sessions. Our occupational therapists find the new space to be more conducive to a sensory integration approach and the wide assortment of sensory-based activities allows them to tailor a “just right challenge” to children of many abilities and ages. Listed below are several of the most utilized pieces of equipment in our sensory gym and a brief description of how they might be used in therapy.

In addition, the Walnut space is equipped with a full kitchen that has ample space for feeding therapy. Kids can engage in making new food creations, constructing food houses and food faces, or simply having a picnic. The kitchen is quiet and exclusive so children can remain regulated and feel in control as they explore the world of new tastes, temperatures, and textures. 

Please stop by to see our new office!